7 Levels of Friendship

While you might have addressed everyone that came by you as friends, deep down inside, you know that they may not truly be friends. Therefore you came out with the term "True Friends" for the ones you called "Friends". Only if they passed the criteria you have set for them, which in many cases are very much personal and differ from person to person. These criteria can range from whether they hang out with you often enough.. Whether they are there when you are in need.. To whether they know you the way you want them to.

But did you know?? Friendship is not as simple as those single two worded "True Friends" or as simple as another few more terms like "Good Friends" or "Best Friends"?? There's actually 7 Levels of Friendship!!

While you think you're a good friend or a friend to someone, you might not be, and while you think your friend is a friend, he or she might just be an activity mate. Now, what is an activity mate?? Read on and find out who you, your “friends” and the people around you truly are.

Level 0 : Strangers
Well, this isn't exactly a level of friendship, but just in case you haven't known exactly what a stranger is, I'm just going to clarify a bit. A stranger is who you don't know his or her name, you might know how the person looks like or a little about what they do sometimes, but that is all you know.

Level 1 : Acquaintances
This is the level where all the people you know started in, this is also where most of the people you know fall in, you know them from places, you only know their names and maybe a little more details about them for a bonus, like what they work as or where they stay or do sometimes, but that is it. There might be a little casual talk like, “Hi or Bye”, “How’s your day??” here and there, but, you have never really talked to them. 

Level 2 : Activity Mates/Buddies
This is the level where most of the people you know as friends fall in, they hang out with you, you can spend hours or years with them. Talking, share jokes, drink, have fun or as simple as you attend a class or have any form of weekly activities together. You might talk, but casual surface talks are all you're going to get from these people, nothing personal. They might ask about your life, you might have even told them about your situations and needs, but they are not really listening and do not want to get involved at all. In other words, when there is fun and something they would like to do with you, they are there. When you are in trouble, they are nowhere near or they are there, but there’s no difference whether they are there or not.

This is exactly where all the "Friends"of benefit fall in, they only need you when there is something in you they can use.

Level 3 : Angel Mortal Relationship
As the name tells, this relationship happens between the "Angel" and the "Mortal". The Angel has the quality of a “Best Friend”(Refer to Level 6) or even a “Soul Mate”(Refer to Level 7); they have everything you want in a Best Friend. However, this relationship does not have the word "Friends" in it for a reason, as it is simply one sided. Just like in reality you will never be able to provide any form of help to an Angel, a Mortal only receives help from the Angel. So while the Mortal can regard the Angel as a Best Friend, the Angel feel that they are just there to help, they do not ask for any favour in return or expect it at all. This form of relationship is rare to come by, as it requires a selfless person as the Angel, but in these days and age people are just selfish most of the time. So this form of friendship is really rare these days.


The Mortals might or might not try to fit in into any of the levels of friendship with the word “Friends” in it with the Angels, but it is simply impossible most of the time. Either the Mortal just doesn’t ever know how to be a friend to someone for most of the time, that's why the Mortal does not have any friends and need the Angel to come by to give a hand. Or, the Angel is simply of a different world altogether, so you can say that people have to be somewhat similar to be friends, or you can say that, people can only be friends if they care enough to change so much that they might start being like people of the same world. Thus being in any of the levels with the word “Friends” in it might be possible.

Level 4 : Friends
This is the level that is so overly used and used wrongly by the society. From this level on, the key for any of these forms of friendships to happen, the relationship has to be mutual, both sided. For a person to be considered a friend the person must have a certain level of care and concern for you, though this person will never go the extra mile for you, but would try as much to care for you when it is convenient. Most important of all you are also treating the person in the exact same way, like mentioned just a few lines above, it has to be mutual.

Let’s not mention the part about spending time to hang out and stuff, for any levels after Activity Mates, it is granted that the person would spend time to hang out with you. The only difference is how much they are willing to do for you.

Level 5 : Good Friends
This level is also mutual, however this level is higher for a reason, both parties have to be willing to have a high level of care and concern for each other. Both parties have to be there for each other in the times of need, they care for each other’s feelings and they would do each other favours to ensure that each other stay happy at all times. In other words, they go the extra mile for each other. But of course, by favour I don't mean that kind that you expect returns, good friends just do it just because they know that their good friend will be happier by their actions. If you expect returns, then you don't even fit to be called a friend. But, there is still a limit to these favours that both parties are willing to do for each other, they would stop right at the line where self sacrificing is required. So you can forget about wanting your good friends to risk their life for you, but if you’re just talking about time, they are ever willing to give it to you whenever you need it. 

Most people have lesser Good Friends than Friends, they form the 1 out of 10 in your pool of people you name with the word “Friends” in it.

Level 6 : Best Friends
This is starting to get repetitive, this level is mutual too, if you haven’t already realise from level 4. In this level, best friends may or may not have a higher level of friendship than Good Friends, it can either be the same or higher. But one thing for sure is, they are willing to die for their Best Friends. They are willing to go the extra mile of the extra mile for their Best Friends.

This form of friendship is even rarer than “Good Friends” it is about 0.01 out of 10 in your pool of people you name with the word “Friends” in it.

Let’s be frank, who would just go around wanting to die for someone just because they know them??

Level 7 : Soulmates
This is this the highest level of friendship that you are ever going to find before courtship. In this level, whatever that is in the “Best Friend” level are also in this level. Yes!! Which means they are willing to die for their Soulmate too.. Except for most of the time in this level of friendship, many things don’t need to be said.

This level is named “Soulmate” for a reason, don’t mix the name up with the boy or girl you are supposed to be spending the rest of your life with.

Yes, either you’re referring to the Boy Girl Relationship one of the Friendship one, some form of mutual understanding is involved. However the difference is the soul isn’t exactly shared with the friendship form of soulmate, as compared to the boy girl relationship one, the soul is actually shared. (Refer to link: http://hewhowatch.blogspot.com.au/2013/12/a-talk-of-birds-and-bees-from-father-to.html) But, we are not going to mention the Boy Girl Relationship form of Soulmate in this post.

The kind Soulmate we're talking about understands their Soulmate inside out, no one need to utter a word, and they know it when either party are happy, sad, troubled or in distress. In fact, sometimes, the Soulmate knows their Soulmate even more than their Soulmate know themselves. Couples that moved from being Soulmates to Courtship can almost guarantee to stay together forever. They always have mutual understanding, they never have secrets, and everything is always shared.

So if you haven’t realise by now, a Soulmate can either be male or female, but it is more common in females for their higher ability to feel and empathize. Sorry guys, don't try lying to yourself, you guys can definitely put in more effort in trying to feel. There can also be more than 1 Soulmate too, unlike the kind of Soulmate we're not referring to here today. As long as there can be this unexplainable connection between you and another person and the person happen to be your Best Friend, you can stop calling the person your Best Friend. Because the person isn't your Best Friend, this person is your Soulmate.

Please do not ask how rare this level of friendship is, for it is even rarer than Best Friends that I can't even put a number to it. If it is that easy to know someone inside out, then everyone must be psychic huh??



So have you figured who you and your friends are now?? No one is stuck to a level ever, you're always different around a different person. Who are we kidding?? You're never going to be the same to everyone that you meet, it is simply impossible. You can get close enough to treating everyone the same, but, there is always going to be exceptions. We got to live with it.

One more reason other than knowing who you and your friends are, that is to know what more you can do for your friends. There is no point knowing who you are without doing something to make yourself better.

So what are you waiting for?? Go be a better friend!!



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