4 Things you shouldn't do on Valentine's Day & What you should do instead

Valentine's day have become so overrated these days that not celebrating it will give you such a sad, dark, and cold feeling deep down inside if you didn't do anything special that day.

Hence everyone is thinking up what they should do on Valentine's Day way before the day even come.

But, these are the things you SHOULD NEVER DO!!    

Number 1 : Never give flowers or chocolate to the person you're interested in (Meaning people you’re not already with) 

It is without doubt that you definitely hope that the person that you are interested in knows that you are interested in him or her. Thus, this is most likely the time that you feel that you must do something to make it known. This is precisely the reason why you shouldn't do anything.

Let’s be honest with ourselves, do you know this person well enough at all?? If you do not, then you’re just giving it a high possibility to go into a relationship that shouldn't start in the first place. Even if you do know the person well enough, because of your actions on Valentine’s Day, you might give the person such a shock that you lost all the chances of ever getting closer to the person. All things start slow, you have to inch in bit by bit, not just jump in with a huge surprise. 

Number 2 : Never go on the first date with someone

While you wish not to be lonely on Valentine’s Day, therefore you’re must be desperately thinking who you should go out with on this really important day. You either pick this person that you have been liking for so long or a person you just find really attractive and don’t mind going out with. Either way, you probably start the relationship on the wrong foot, like mentioned before, you need time to know a person. If you do not know a person well and just start dating on Valentine’s, you’ll probably continue dating after that. Just like in any relationships that couples don’t really know each other well first, when they start knowing each other well, they wonder why are they even dating at all?? Then you’ll just be wasting your time..   

Number 3 : Never give your first kiss
 

Your first kiss is definitely the most important thing you own besides your virginity. You probably have thoughts of losing it to someone you really love and will never want to part with. That is if you still have your first kiss, if you don’t, you would most likely agree with the rest of what you’re going to read. Most people think the first person they kiss is the person they want to spend the rest of their life with. But truth be told, 95% of the people in the world lose their first kiss to someone they regret ever losing their first kiss to. So why should you continue to think that you can be that 5% that kissed the right person?? It is 75% safer to just give your first kiss on your wedding day, the other 25% goes to people with marriage that just didn't turn out too well. 

Number 4 : Never seal the deal

Valentine’s Day is just so sadly related to sex for the first time, what can represent your unquenchable love for someone besides making love on the day of love huh?? Giving your first time makes the occasion even more important and sacred huh?? Well, sadly, all these are just a sad fairy tale, there’s no happy ever after. 

The only kind of sex for the first time is only ever going to happen on Valentine’s between couples that aren’t married to each other. If not, which married couple is ever going to wait till Valentine’s?? Unless, they are married on Valentine’s..

Just like the first kiss, while you innocently think that the person you give your first time to is going to love you forever or vice versa, that is just not going to happen unless this happens after marriage. Then this gives you 75% more confident that you won’t be giving your first time to the wrong person. If not, just like the first kiss, you will just be regretting after that, just that this is going to hurt more than the first kiss, this is your first time. Your one and only first time that you are never ever, ever, going to get it back. 

There’s only 5% chance that you’re ever going to give your first kiss to the right person that will love you forever, you think there will be a higher chance that you will be giving your first time to the right person?? 

In fact, you don’t even have the 5% chance that the person you lose your first time to is ever going to be the one, you took the wrong step in your relationship, any relationships besides marriage that have sex involved just screws your it up. It makes the relationship to be all about lust and there goes the chance of ever understanding the one you’re interested in properly.             


What you should do instead..


The 1 and only thing : Spend time with you friends


While it is hard to get by the day that you feel really lonely, since you probably won’t be doing anything mentioned above now. What can be better to have a bunch of friends reminding you that you should be patient to wait for The ONE and just enjoy your single hood while you still can?? Just spend the day doing something fun together, ask them out!! Time will pass really fast, the next thing you know, it’s February 15!!

Though you must be careful who you ask, if your friends involve the opposite gender, you better be careful, you don’t want to give the wrong signal. 

6 Characteristics of a girl you shouldn't be looking at & 3 Characteristics you should be looking at

Now, before I start explaining why certain characteristics guys shouldn't be looking at in a girl. Let me emphasize that it is not because it is not important, but it shouldn't be the first thing that you look at in a girl. In fact, after I explain it, you might even realise that it should be the last thing that you should be looking at.

6 Characteristics of a girl you shouldn't be looking at:

Number 1 : Cup Size
This is the number 1 characteristic that a guy look at, but after I explain it, this might be the last thing you will ever consider again.

Most guys think that when it comes to the cup size, it is always the bigger the better. But have you thought, what will become of that D or E cup that you always drop your jaws on?? They probably start sagging when a girl turn 40, lets not think about what they become after that. For if you are a girl, you will know the distress after 40, then you start wondering why you did that breast implant?? Maybe it's time to go back to firm it up with more knife on it.

The bigger it is the more they will sag, unless there is a way someone can overcome gravity, which we all know. No one.


Number 2 : Skin Texture
This is also what most guys highly regard too, "Look at that girl with the silky porcelain skin!! So smooth..".

 Any idea what they will become after 40 too?? Yes, wrinkles, spots, everything a lady got to face when they age. All the things you sort after in a girls skin will be gone in no time.

Number 3 : Legs
While you are hoping that your girlfriend or wife have the most fabulous long legs among your friend's girlfriend or wife. Have you thought what will become of them after pregnancy or hours of working non-stop as a housewife?? They probably become swollen, thick and might even have vein popping out all over like a carrot.    

Number 4 : Waist
This is the one other characteristic that cause all the girls to fret from ancient times, or nothing such as a corset will ever be created. This too, yes!! Like everything else mentioned above will disappear through time, the waist will never be the same again after pregnancy and marriage. Who need to keep that tummy in check if you already have a ring on your finger right?? A few more rings around your waist won't matter!!

Number 5 : Hair Length and Texture
Yes, the longer the hair, the more sexy the girl is, if it can be straight and silky, it will be soo awesome!! But, most girls only keep their hair long because they know this is what guys look at. But if the war of fighting for the man you love is over, why keep the weapon?? Besides, the weather can be so hot sometimes, it is better to chop the length short to fight the heat.

Number 6 : Looks
When it comes to this day and age, nothing on the face is real anymore. You can be two different person just with the make up on and off, with different shade, contouring, eyeliner, concealer and the final touch of the foundation and blush, wala!! You're a whole new top model!!  

3 Characteristics you should be looking at:

Number 1 : Character
While everything can come to a past for the things you shouldn't look at above, if your wife have a good character to keep herself in check just because she knows they way her husband would prefer her to be, everything mentioned above very much stays after marriage or even after 40.

However, this is the number 1 characteristic that most people fail to recognize it's importance, this is the number 1 characteristic that keep a couple together. A girl can have all the good features, but if she don't have a good character, all the features will be gone before long and you would be wondering why you even love her. It is even worst if she pisses you off every time you try to have a proper conversation with her, how do you continue a relationship like this??

Number 2 : Eyes
This is the one of the two characteristics that won't change if you can see pass the eyeliner, for that's the cool thing about the eyes. Wrinkles can appear, lines can add itself to the face, but nothing can change how a person's eyes look. Assuming there's no disease to complicate things.. So if you love a girl's eyes, you're never going to be disappointed even on the day you lose her to the after life.

Number 3 : Smile
This is the second of the two characteristics that is not going to fade, assuming the husband keeps the wife happy through their time together. If not, even a thousands year wouldn't take a beautiful smile off a person's face.

Now guys, think twice before your eyes scan a girl from top to bottom, is that what you should be doing??


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7 Levels of Friendship

While you might have addressed everyone that came by you as friends, deep down inside, you know that they may not truly be friends. Therefore you came out with the term "True Friends" for the ones you called "Friends". Only if they passed the criteria you have set for them, which in many cases are very much personal and differ from person to person. These criteria can range from whether they hang out with you often enough.. Whether they are there when you are in need.. To whether they know you the way you want them to.

But did you know?? Friendship is not as simple as those single two worded "True Friends" or as simple as another few more terms like "Good Friends" or "Best Friends"?? There's actually 7 Levels of Friendship!!

While you think you're a good friend or a friend to someone, you might not be, and while you think your friend is a friend, he or she might just be an activity mate. Now, what is an activity mate?? Read on and find out who you, your “friends” and the people around you truly are.

Level 0 : Strangers
Well, this isn't exactly a level of friendship, but just in case you haven't known exactly what a stranger is, I'm just going to clarify a bit. A stranger is who you don't know his or her name, you might know how the person looks like or a little about what they do sometimes, but that is all you know.

Level 1 : Acquaintances
This is the level where all the people you know started in, this is also where most of the people you know fall in, you know them from places, you only know their names and maybe a little more details about them for a bonus, like what they work as or where they stay or do sometimes, but that is it. There might be a little casual talk like, “Hi or Bye”, “How’s your day??” here and there, but, you have never really talked to them. 

Level 2 : Activity Mates/Buddies
This is the level where most of the people you know as friends fall in, they hang out with you, you can spend hours or years with them. Talking, share jokes, drink, have fun or as simple as you attend a class or have any form of weekly activities together. You might talk, but casual surface talks are all you're going to get from these people, nothing personal. They might ask about your life, you might have even told them about your situations and needs, but they are not really listening and do not want to get involved at all. In other words, when there is fun and something they would like to do with you, they are there. When you are in trouble, they are nowhere near or they are there, but there’s no difference whether they are there or not.

This is exactly where all the "Friends"of benefit fall in, they only need you when there is something in you they can use.

Level 3 : Angel Mortal Relationship
As the name tells, this relationship happens between the "Angel" and the "Mortal". The Angel has the quality of a “Best Friend”(Refer to Level 6) or even a “Soul Mate”(Refer to Level 7); they have everything you want in a Best Friend. However, this relationship does not have the word "Friends" in it for a reason, as it is simply one sided. Just like in reality you will never be able to provide any form of help to an Angel, a Mortal only receives help from the Angel. So while the Mortal can regard the Angel as a Best Friend, the Angel feel that they are just there to help, they do not ask for any favour in return or expect it at all. This form of relationship is rare to come by, as it requires a selfless person as the Angel, but in these days and age people are just selfish most of the time. So this form of friendship is really rare these days.


The Mortals might or might not try to fit in into any of the levels of friendship with the word “Friends” in it with the Angels, but it is simply impossible most of the time. Either the Mortal just doesn’t ever know how to be a friend to someone for most of the time, that's why the Mortal does not have any friends and need the Angel to come by to give a hand. Or, the Angel is simply of a different world altogether, so you can say that people have to be somewhat similar to be friends, or you can say that, people can only be friends if they care enough to change so much that they might start being like people of the same world. Thus being in any of the levels with the word “Friends” in it might be possible.

Level 4 : Friends
This is the level that is so overly used and used wrongly by the society. From this level on, the key for any of these forms of friendships to happen, the relationship has to be mutual, both sided. For a person to be considered a friend the person must have a certain level of care and concern for you, though this person will never go the extra mile for you, but would try as much to care for you when it is convenient. Most important of all you are also treating the person in the exact same way, like mentioned just a few lines above, it has to be mutual.

Let’s not mention the part about spending time to hang out and stuff, for any levels after Activity Mates, it is granted that the person would spend time to hang out with you. The only difference is how much they are willing to do for you.

Level 5 : Good Friends
This level is also mutual, however this level is higher for a reason, both parties have to be willing to have a high level of care and concern for each other. Both parties have to be there for each other in the times of need, they care for each other’s feelings and they would do each other favours to ensure that each other stay happy at all times. In other words, they go the extra mile for each other. But of course, by favour I don't mean that kind that you expect returns, good friends just do it just because they know that their good friend will be happier by their actions. If you expect returns, then you don't even fit to be called a friend. But, there is still a limit to these favours that both parties are willing to do for each other, they would stop right at the line where self sacrificing is required. So you can forget about wanting your good friends to risk their life for you, but if you’re just talking about time, they are ever willing to give it to you whenever you need it. 

Most people have lesser Good Friends than Friends, they form the 1 out of 10 in your pool of people you name with the word “Friends” in it.

Level 6 : Best Friends
This is starting to get repetitive, this level is mutual too, if you haven’t already realise from level 4. In this level, best friends may or may not have a higher level of friendship than Good Friends, it can either be the same or higher. But one thing for sure is, they are willing to die for their Best Friends. They are willing to go the extra mile of the extra mile for their Best Friends.

This form of friendship is even rarer than “Good Friends” it is about 0.01 out of 10 in your pool of people you name with the word “Friends” in it.

Let’s be frank, who would just go around wanting to die for someone just because they know them??

Level 7 : Soulmates
This is this the highest level of friendship that you are ever going to find before courtship. In this level, whatever that is in the “Best Friend” level are also in this level. Yes!! Which means they are willing to die for their Soulmate too.. Except for most of the time in this level of friendship, many things don’t need to be said.

This level is named “Soulmate” for a reason, don’t mix the name up with the boy or girl you are supposed to be spending the rest of your life with.

Yes, either you’re referring to the Boy Girl Relationship one of the Friendship one, some form of mutual understanding is involved. However the difference is the soul isn’t exactly shared with the friendship form of soulmate, as compared to the boy girl relationship one, the soul is actually shared. (Refer to link: http://hewhowatch.blogspot.com.au/2013/12/a-talk-of-birds-and-bees-from-father-to.html) But, we are not going to mention the Boy Girl Relationship form of Soulmate in this post.

The kind Soulmate we're talking about understands their Soulmate inside out, no one need to utter a word, and they know it when either party are happy, sad, troubled or in distress. In fact, sometimes, the Soulmate knows their Soulmate even more than their Soulmate know themselves. Couples that moved from being Soulmates to Courtship can almost guarantee to stay together forever. They always have mutual understanding, they never have secrets, and everything is always shared.

So if you haven’t realise by now, a Soulmate can either be male or female, but it is more common in females for their higher ability to feel and empathize. Sorry guys, don't try lying to yourself, you guys can definitely put in more effort in trying to feel. There can also be more than 1 Soulmate too, unlike the kind of Soulmate we're not referring to here today. As long as there can be this unexplainable connection between you and another person and the person happen to be your Best Friend, you can stop calling the person your Best Friend. Because the person isn't your Best Friend, this person is your Soulmate.

Please do not ask how rare this level of friendship is, for it is even rarer than Best Friends that I can't even put a number to it. If it is that easy to know someone inside out, then everyone must be psychic huh??



So have you figured who you and your friends are now?? No one is stuck to a level ever, you're always different around a different person. Who are we kidding?? You're never going to be the same to everyone that you meet, it is simply impossible. You can get close enough to treating everyone the same, but, there is always going to be exceptions. We got to live with it.

One more reason other than knowing who you and your friends are, that is to know what more you can do for your friends. There is no point knowing who you are without doing something to make yourself better.

So what are you waiting for?? Go be a better friend!!



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Not finding your soulmate relating to how you buy shoes for girls

Finding a soul mate to a girl is like getting a good pair of shoes from a Shoe Shop. There are many shoes to choose from: 
                                           
Type 1
Shoe: A pair of cheap shiny heels that spoil easily, bites and don't last long but look fabulous. 
                                              
Man: A man that looks awesome but lack the character to love and care. 

Type 2
Shoe: A pair of expensive heels with high arch that looks luxurious, last long but bites or harms the feet.

Man: A rich man with or without good looks that loves your sexy body, drown you with money but do not love you.

Type 3
Shoe: A regular pair of sneakers that last long and feel comfortable.

Man: A man with good character, loves you for who you are but looks average.

Type 4
Shoe: A foot ware of any price that suits you, make you look fabulous, durable and feels comfortable but takes time to find.

Man: A man with good looks to you, good character and loves you for who you are.

How you pick a good pair of shoes can show how you pick your soul mate. 

Are you doing it the right way??

Every girl hopes to have the type 4 kind of guy for a soul mate, but how are you choosing your soul mate??

Are you patient?? Are you willing to wait?? Are you making a good choice??

Do you take time to consider?? Or do you jump at what catches your eye first?? Or do you just settle for anyone that last long and does not make you cry??

Not finding the perfect Type 4 guy?? Look at how you're choosing your shoes, is it the same as how you choose your soul mate?? You might have just found where the problem lies..

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A talk of Birds and Bees from a father to his daughter

A father was worried about his daughter that is growing up by the years and decided to sit his daughter down and give her a talk that he thought his daughter is ready to receive.

Father:
Well, it's about time that I talk about this sophisticated topic with you. This may make you feel rather uncomfortable, but I rather be the one to tell you than allowing you to learn through the painful experiences you might encounter without this knowledge I'm just about to share with you. Sex to most is just an activity where two become rather intimate, people seek it for pleasure, fun, and assurance of love. But, sex is not as simple as just an activity done between couples, it is in fact an exchange of soul. Either side will give half of what he/she have in return for the other half of his/her partner, it is the bonding of the soul. This is why people tend to refer to sex as becoming one with their partner and the term soul mate used. Once the exchange is made, either side will always be able to feel what each other feels. Partners will realise that, as they love each other and get closer, the more they are able to understand each other. Sex is an oath between couples that they will love and protect each other forever and in other words nourish each others soul with love. However if sex is done out of marriage, more often than not the couple leaves each other with the broken promise of love and protect. Though the promise is broken but the process is irreversible, the exchange is made. It leaves either side torn from his/her own soul not nourished with love. The couple forever feel this emptiness within themselves, the half of the soul they lost, forever hurt by the tear of their soul. 

Many times, people without this knowledge that are seeking fun, experience or love end up having multiple partners. This you can imagine their soul keep halving with whatever that is left, the result is the extreme sense of lost, emptiness, and the lack of the identity of self.

Most that have come to know of this knowledge promise themselves or others that they will only have sex with the one they marry. However, again, more often than not, they fail to keep this promise. The reasons varies, some is because they were drunk, some were raped, some believe that the boy/girl they are dating is going to be the one they marry, some were just impatient. Whether the reason is valid or not, whether protection is worn, the result is all the same, the bond is made and nothing can be changed.

Let's not talk about the reasons that are rare, lets talk about the reason that most lose their virginity, relationship. Different people enter a relationship with a different reason, some wants to try something new, some wants to be loved, some sadly happens most with guys, was for sex. At the early stage of most guy's life, sex is a thrill, excitement and something to boost their ego. The more partners they commit the act with, the more proud they become, they tend to boast about their experiences with each other when no female is around. While these guys don't feel as much as most girls do, they too suffer the lost of their halve or halves of their soul. Just that most girl feel it more, and can sometimes spend nights crying over what they have lost. Only some guys start to feel the lost and emptiness at the later stage of their life. 

The thought of what these guys are thinking are rather disgusting, you might wonder how these guys manage to seal the deal with so many girls. You might start thinking that these girls are just cheap or stupid or both. But no, these girls are very much the same as most girls, all they wanted were a guy to love them like how they first love him. What they don't know is that, these guys are not ready to love anyone at all, they might keep promising that they will love the girl they date forever. But, one experienced enough will know that the same promise is present in all the uncountable numbers of relationship that all end up failed leaving permanent hurt to both parties. Sometimes these guys are more monstrous, they lie, cheat, or force their way through with the many tricks up their sleeve, all for the sake of getting the girl on their bed. No love is ever involved in any of these, all they seek is the most prized winning they seek, sex.

Therefore, if most are not ready to seal the deal, then sex should never be involved before marriage. Because let's not forget, your soul is involved in this short moment of pleasure. Therefore, no matter how sure you are, before you take the oath on the altar to love your wife/husband forever, do not seal the deal. Not even after engagement or registration, anything can change before the oath is made. Protect your soul, do not let anyone have the chance to take it from you, till the oath is made on the altar. Take precautions, keep your guard up, never let your complacency be your regret for life.